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A Message To You
Hello and thanks so much for stopping by!
I am so grateful you have taken the time to visit my website to learn more about what I do!
As far back as I can remember I have always been drawn to challenging myself. To doing whatever it took to reaching beyond my comfort zone – whether it was excelling at sport, reaching the next level in my studies; whatever my mission was at my time and age – it has always been about giving it my all. Honestly, that’s where I thrive.
And this little mission of mine has taken me through incredible careers, study of amazing ventures and challenges I never saw coming. But the bumps along my journey no matter my age of my life; are my greatest gifts. A gift to step up next time. To put in the extra effort in whatever it was that I was doing to truly make every single second count.
A gift that reminded me maybe I was off course, and I needed to set sail in a new direction.
My little mission has become a way of life for me, but I haven’t always stayed true to course. I have lost my way enormously and those moments of realisation that I was way off course brought me to my knees. But they also brought me to you today! Without those learnings, I know I wouldn’t be able to help you along your journey too!
Personal confession – one of my greatest fears in life is not living to my fullest potential and leaving this world without having at least tried to achieve everything my heart desires. Truth be known, I think I know you feel the same. Sometimes that commitment to yourself is SO hard in the busyness of life…but it is critical. Because when we step up and live our life on purpose, towards the small and big goals that quietly wait patiently in our heart, our world changes. And when we light up our own world in turn light up others too!
I can’t wait to connect with you and support you along your journey too!
Alanna. x
Alanna Lalor
My Story
I was standing in the hallway having a conversation with my boyfriend at the time. A version of the conversation had been pre-planned in my head, but it wasn’t unfolding as I expected. “So, a family, getting married, do you not want those things anymore?”.
“Alanna, I told you when I was 39, if any of those things were going to happen, they would have happened by now”. He was now 42.
“So, I have just wasted 3 years of my life?”
He shrugged his shoulders and walked away.
I was devastated. Not for his lies and horrible battles fought for almost 5 years we were together.
I was numb to that. Couldn’t care less. I was truly guttered that he took the only thing away from me that I could never get back.
Time.
I was so upset that he treated it with such careless disregard.
He had truly no idea how angry I was at him. He just didn’t care.
Still, the questions re-circulated.
How could he have wasted so much of my time not actually going anywhere in this relationship and not have the courage to break up with me if we were just a dead-end? How could he just string me along like this?! That’s when I realised that it’s not truly his fault. It was also mine. I didn’t have the courage to walk away sooner when I needed to. I knew with every ounce of my being that I was wasting my time and I had known it for such a long time. That wasn’t his fault. That was me not being authentic and true to myself.
I clearly remember thinking not long before the day of this last conversation with him; if I had a little girl, am I proud of the decisions I was making? Would I be proud of the example I am leading if she could watch me?
One single answer: No. I wasn’t.
In the years we were together I missed opportunities. I missed time with people. Relationships with others that could have been. Experiences, events, life. I missed so much mostly because I was paralysed with fear.
But I couldn’t stay in that space – the space of gut-wrenching regret – all I could do now was continue to put one-foot in front of the other and move on.
The following weeks and months were horrible. So hard. Lonely. So many “what-if’s”. So many; “maybe he will want me back, maybe he will change?” But I had to keep going and I also knew I wanted to turn 30 single, rather than in a relationship which wasn’t going anywhere.
Fast forward 8 years since this event.
Everything about my life is different and I feel like I am living my dream. I followed my heart and left everyone I loved and knew behind to move from Sydney to Queensland. A calling within me for years that I was too afraid to make. I live in “God’s Country” with my incredible husband who is also a Queenslander. And, in case you were wondering, I have a gorgeous baby girl.
So many moments in my life have been like these events. My body, heart and soul screams for change and my actions struggle to follow through – until a tipping point. Until time confronts me in my quiet hours and reminds me that this one wild and precious life is mine. It is no-one else’s, and it’s up to us to make the most of every single precious moment because when we do, our world changes. Possibilities open, people appear, our world changes and you finally become alive. Guilt, shame, regret for staying the same. It’s all gone. And you become so proud of where you have come from and what you have achieved.
And I am here to help you change your story. To help you become the hero of your own journey in whatever way that means to you because I have been there. On so many occasions struggled to take the uncomfortable actions for the change and different life I feel like I could only dream about. But I am here to tell you it’s possible.
You deserve this. You are worthy of seeing your world change by taking small steps to life the life that your heart desires and I am here to walk with you every step of the way.
Time is a gift. It is the only thing we give away and can never be returned. I know for a fact; I will never regret taking any actions and steps towards my dreams. I will only regret forever the ones I didn’t take.
